Ep #12: The Best and Most Profitable Habits for Coaches

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Welcome to the modern coach podcast.

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You're listening to episode number 12, the most profitable

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and best habits for coaches.

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Hello a new week, um, means a new episode of the modern coach podcast.

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And I thought this week we would start with great habits that every single coach.

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Needs to have, because I didn't know about you.

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But when I first started in this industry, I was trying to figure

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out like, what are the things that I need to do in order to be successful?

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Who, who whohoo?

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And this is one that I get asked.

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Probably the most around from like the coaching perspective, right?

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Like what, what is the one key to success?

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And I think there are a few, and I think that, you know, as I get more

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successful, as I discover more and more of the inner modern coach within me,

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My routines and habits have changed.

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And my, relationship with the word habit has changed too.

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So what is a habit?

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A habit is something that you do over and over again until

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you stop thinking about it.

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One of the biggest struggles that I have always had is like

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the morning routine, right?

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I always assumed that as you know, as we've all probably read the

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5:00 AM club, I've met Elrod.

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He's really great.

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He's really lovely as is his wife.

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But you know, for me reading that book, I was like, I wish, I wish I

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wish I wish I wish I could be the person that gets up at five and

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gets everything done in the morning.

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I've just never been that morning person.

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And it used to really bother me that, you know, as a coach, I'm

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supposed to be really great at habits.

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but I just wasn't for the August time, uh, habits was one of those

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things that sort of alluded me.

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And, you know, I think that it's really, really important that every single one

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of us remembers that it's your business.

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You get to decide what schedule is good for you.

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If you have really tiny babies and you have, you know, a very full life and you.

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Routine does not allow you to get up at 5:00 AM.

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That's okay.

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The majority of the habit books were written by men who have

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full-time caretakers in terms of like their wives look after the

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babies and full-time, so they are able to get up at the crack of Dawn.

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Lock themselves away in their office, do their sexy, you know, morning

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routine, yoga, whatever MMA training, yada, yada, yada, then do all of

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the things that they need to do.

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And then they come back home to their families.

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Whereas.

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Most of the coaches that I work with, they're doing yoga and their kid is

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crawling underneath the mat and you know, they have to walk the dog and

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something is going wrong and the sink is kneeing and it falls all on, my client's

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shoulders to, to figure it all out.

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Now that's not to say that obviously, like that's a perception.

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There, there is always two sides to every story.

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She doesn't have to figure it all out.

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Someone else can walk the dog.

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Someone else can fix the sink and so on and so forth.

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But I think when we think about habits, we listen to the, to the advice of men,

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usually around these topics who do not have the same problems and who do not

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have the same expectations upon them.

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And I think that this is something that is again, shifting in our modern world.

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And I think something that we need to think about because at the end of the day,

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you, as let's face it, the majority of, of my followers are women, nothing against

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men, but you, you as a woman and me as a woman, You have different expectations.

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You have, you know, your period, you've got shit like menopause to deal with.

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You've got kids, you've got other, you know, you've got

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other expectations upon you.

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And I think that a lot of, again, like a lot of these habit books that

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we read about in terms of am and PM routines, the written by men.

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And I think that's just something that is worth remembering.

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So, if you do not have, you know, the most perfect morning routine

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or nighttime routine, then it is okay, no one is going to judge

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you, especially not in this space.

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It's fine for you to be.

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Lax in the mornings.

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In fact, I don't get up until nine 30 most days.

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my coaching course never start until 10.

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Like I, I just don't have calls before 10:00 AM and that's the way that I choose

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to live my life because I, I can make my own schedule that does not mean that,

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you know, I don't necessarily, I will get up and I will go to yoga or I will

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get up and I will go and, you know, go for a little walk or enjoy my morning.

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But I don't start work at the crack of door.

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It's not enjoyable for me to wake up at five, write all my

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content, get everything done.

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I was doing that when I was at uni.

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Right.

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And I was traveling all the time and I had two jobs for me.

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You know, that that type of schedule doesn't work for me,

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where I am at in, in my life.

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Now I do not have kids for disclosure.

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I do have a little sister that I look after.

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So.

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Like for throughout the year, she will be my sole occupying.

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You know, it sort of like having, you know, renting kids, if you

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like, cuz I still have to do the morning routines and all the things.

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And that does complicate my schedule a little bit, but in a normal day

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to day capacity, I, you know, my routines are reflective of the

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type of life that I wanna lead.

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And I wanna encourage you to look.

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What are the routines that you wanna have in your life?

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Now, if you are telling me, you know, what it would make my life so much better.

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If I had a morning routine, then fine, let's talk about it.

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And like a lot of my clients, and I do have those, those conversations.

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For me, it's much more important to have a really productive nighttime routine than

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it is to have a morning power up routine.

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I will have like a morning power up little, like little thing that I do

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before I get, get set into my desk.

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Like I will stretch.

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I will, you know, do a little tapping.

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I will have a lot, lot of water.

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I will maybe dance around my.

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sometimes if I feel like it, and then I will sit down and I will be ready to work

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no matter where I'm at in the nighttime.

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It's really, really important for me to wind down, to do some mindset work, to,

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to put into practice my coaching habits.

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And it's way, way, way more important for me to do that than it is for

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me to, you know, have a really productive three hour morning routine

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for you and your coaching habits.

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I want you to get into the practice of.

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Am I powering up in the correct way as in, if I am I getting in the right mind

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space when I'm sitting at my sitting on my desk and doing work and am I

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powering down in the most effective way?

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And I think those two are like the most important habits for

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me is like, how do we start?

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And how do we end?

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Sometimes we, we like that saying like, start with the end in mind for me.

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Like that's where everything click.

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I'm a night out.

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I like to work at night.

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There's nothing wrong with it.

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Um, I also, you know, have respect for my family and for, for my partner

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who wants to do normal people things.

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So they cared to come a point where I was no longer working

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at all our hours of the day.

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And I had enough respect for my relationship and for the people in my.

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To not be working in the middle of the night, because that does not a

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productive life make for the two of us.

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So like again, there are gonna be different dynamics that are

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layered on top of whatever it is that your life looks like.

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I just wanna share with you like the basics of what I think great

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habits need to look like for coaches.

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And what might be helpful for you to implement so that you have the most

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productive relationship with your work and with your life too, because ultimately

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that's, that's the only thing that we don't have an infinite amount of is time.

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And the way that you choose to spend yours, I think is pretty important.

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And it's a great topic to think about.

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So for me, number one, in terms of great habits for coaches is definitely

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what are my am and PM routine.

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So, what does my morning look like?

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What does my nighttime look like again?

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So not perfect with these things.

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I do not really have a morning routine.

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I have a power of routine for when I start working.

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But for you that might be different for you.

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It might be really important to have a great morning routine and, you know, you

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might notice your productivity skyrocket.

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The one thing that I do, um, I have access to that.

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I really love in the mornings, particularly when I'm procrastinating

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or when I, you know, need to get stuff done is I go onto this

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thing called focus, mate dot.

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And I'll link it in the show notes for you is this co-working site.

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And whenever I am struggling to concentrate and struggling to get any

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work done, or whenever I've just really like, just not been in the mood to

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do, to do the work that needs to get done, I will go on to focus mate.com

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and I will do a co-working session.

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And it immediately snaps me back into work mode because I have

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that for forced accountability.

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So that really works for me.

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And I would a hundred percent recommend.

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I know a lot of people do their morning routines.

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On focus made.com and it becomes part of their like morning routine, right?

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Because they, they have to sign on and they have that forced accountability.

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And I think that works a really, really well for a lot of my clients, particularly

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who have different circumstances to me then number two, a great habit

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for you to form is a sales habit.

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When are you asking for the sale?

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Do you have a sales habit in your business?

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What, what are the things that we are doing every quarter?

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Like we look at things in 90 day cycles in my.

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So it's like in the 90 day cycle, we have to be selling something and it's a habit.

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Like anything else, if you haven't been asking for the sale, you are not in

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the habit of asking people to pay you.

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And that's a problem.

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You're a business owner, business owners make money.

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Your business equals your sales.

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Therefore, do you have a sales routine?

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Do you have a sales habit in your business that you can rely on?

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To bring you cash every, you know, every 90 days, every 30

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days, every whatever seven days.

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And what does that look like?

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So your sales routine is, is very, very, very important because it's gonna inform

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the rest of your business habits, right?

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Then your mindset routine, right?

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I think that sale, like if we, if we don't have a sales routine, then a

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lot of the time we don't really have a mindset routine or we might have a

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really, really long ass mindset routine, but that eclipses, the sales routine.

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What does your mindset routine look like?

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Are you spending a lot of your day doing mindset work?

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If that's the case, why , why are you doing all the mindset work

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in the world and not actually actioning and living your life?

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I, I was this person, so I'm lovingly calling myself out to

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where for a season in my business.

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I was convinced that I had all of these mindset issues, that it was, everything

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was just, everything was wrong.

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I had all like, oh my God, I'm not worthy.

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I'm not this.

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I'm not that, oh my God, I'm not lovable.

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All of this bullshit that was coming up to the surface that don't get me wrong.

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Like we all have these insecurities.

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However, that does not mean that.

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We need to be spending all day long, thinking about mindset.

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You are a business owner.

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Again, your business needs you to function.

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Your business does not need you to go and do a ritual in the middle

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of the day because your business needs something else from you.

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And look, there's nothing wrong with you doing a ritual or two words.

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There's nothing wrong with you having a mindset routine, but is it taking

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up your quote work time and how much time are you spending in your doing

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your mindset work versus how much time are you actually doing work?

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Work like.

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Can we, can we look at the balance between the two?

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And can we look at how many working hours do you actually have on your calendar and

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what are you doing in those working hours?

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I think the most interesting thing is that as a coach, you are your own boss, right?

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So you need to have that discipline for yourself to be able to, to say

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to yourself, wow, am I actually doing the work that needs to be done?

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Or am I just doing, you know, a bunch of journaling that isn't leading me anywhere

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again, like great, have a mindset routine, but is it leading you to an outcome?

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Is it helping you do something with whatever the newfound

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clarity that you've got?

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And I see a lot of coaches who are like rolling in the dough and are, you

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know, are multiple six, seven figure.

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And they're like, you know, I've just spent this last week in a cocoon of

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my own mindset, like really working on myself and really going deeper.

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And I'm like, that's great.

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Like you have the systems, the processes and the team to do that.

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Most coaches do not.

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And I think when you are at, at, at the do not stage, then it's a balance.

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It's a, how can I balance my business and what my business needs from me

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and how can I balance working on.

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And my own limitations.

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I personally will only ever do like positive tappings in the morning.

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Like I'm gonna have a great day.

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Today is gonna be a great day, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

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Unless like I've got, I don't know, a migraine or something coming up very

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specifically, but in the morning I will usually just do very positive tapping.

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if I wanna work on something, I will do it in the evening where I can then

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process my emotions and I can go to sleep and let my body do the processing.

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I will never do my mindset work in the morning.

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I know that a lot of coaches advocate for it.

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I personally don't because I find that it just, it puts

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me off kilter I'm processing.

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Like I'm not in a mind space to then do some productive I'm just not.

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And I think that most coaches, Have a very similar relationship

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with a mindset routine too.

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So a great habit for you to have is yet have a mindset habit, have, have

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the things that you do on a monthly, weekly, you know, daily basis.

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And, and have that be part of your routine.

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For me, tapping is a routine.

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I love it.

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It's absolutely an integral part of my mindset process as is going

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to coaching as is learning right.

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And doing things for.

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I do that at very specific times to make sure that I have a habit, right.

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That is outside of my working hours.

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Right.

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I don't see my mindset routine as part of my work as a coach.

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And I think that lots of coaches would make a lot more money if they adopted

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that same mindset number number four, in terms of great habits for coaches to

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have coaching routines, coaching habits.

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Do you have.

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a recharging habit, like after a long, if I have too many coaching calls in one

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day, which sometimes happens if I travel for example, and I take, you know, a week

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or two off, then I will stack my coaching calls or like whenever I do VIP days,

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they're typically in one week after I've done all of that work with my clients.

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I need to have a recharging routine.

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For me, it looks like a bath.

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It looks like, you know, an intention looks like an essential oils.

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It looks like journaling.

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It looks like tapping and, you know, depending on whatever it is

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that we covered, it will change.

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But it's really, really important for me to have a recharging habit.

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After my very intense, when we are doing a lot of processing with clients,

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I need to have a space to recharge.

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So for example, when a few, a weeks ago I was staying with my mom for a month and a.

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due to some personal circumstances in her life.

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It was really fascinating because obviously I don't live with her.

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Like I have my own house.

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I live with my partner and, and he knows that after a long day of coaching

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or if I do VIP days, or if I do a lot of interviews, I need to recharge my

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energy and I need to just be quiet and I need to go within, and I need

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to cleanse myself of that energy.

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And I need to like, do some cold cutting or whatever it may be.

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Whereas, if you're living with people who don't understand it, you

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know, they don't understand that you need to go and like barricade

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yourself in the bath for an hour.

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And I think a lot of the time it's, it's interesting.

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When you are in a, in an outside situation, when you are

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outside of the normal routine of life, do you have that habit?

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And do you adhere to that habit?

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Because I was like, I'm going on the bus and I don't care what anyone says.

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Like, I will speak to you all tomorrow.

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Goodbye.

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I'm dead to the world.

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I'm gonna do my routine, my habit, that, that gets me into, you know, the

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correct quote unquote space for me.

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Because in order for me to be a functioning, human being who is

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contributing to the conversation at large, I need to recharge my own batteries.

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And I think a lot of the coaching habits that I've develop.

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come out of that, right.

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Come out of me wanting to be the best coach.

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I can be right.

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So I have a recharging habit.

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I have habits within my coaching practice, whereas at the beginning

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of the week, at the end of the week, I have a cord cutting habit as well.

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Like whenever I offboard a client, I will be very, very intentional.

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With how I end those relationships.

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and again, like I will have an, even for me, the main one really is

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maintaining my relationship with my clients and recharging at the end of

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like the very emotional conversations.

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Sometimes I'll get off a coaching.

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Cool.

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And I'm like high on life and I'm so excited.

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And sometimes when we've processed a lot of feelings, obviously I'm facilitating

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and I'm holding space for the client.

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And even though I'm not in the situation, that situation is outside of me.

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I'm infusing my energy into the coaching bubble, but I'm not in the bubble itself.

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I'm just holding the space.

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Sometimes holding the space can feel, um, emotionally hard.

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because again, mirror dimensions see previous episode for what I mean there.

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Right.

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But it it's still, even if you're not necessarily in there and you're

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not processing the emotions with the client, it is still a tool on you.

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And I think sometimes giving yourself the space to recharge and replenish your

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own energy is really, really important.

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Again, nine times out of 10, I jump off coaching clients full of beans,

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and I'm like fricking excited.

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But for.

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1% of the time.

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Sometimes you just need to give yourself a little bit of extra love and attention.

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Now the fifth habit for coaches is of course the 16 minute marketing method.

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If you do not know what that is, I would highly recommend you scroll

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back up and listen to the content process episode F you episodes back it.

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The 60 minute marketing method is essentially the habit

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of creating content and.

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Highly highly, highly recommend that we do not batch content, that we create

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content on the daily, particularly when we are first starting out to get into the

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habit of, of constant content creation.

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Because in my experience, it's a, it's a lot more difficult to sit down and

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batch a bunch of stuff than it is to.

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Create daily, essentially.

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And to be more, a little bit more reactive, of course, as you get into

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the habit of creating, you can create and both create more content for sure.

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But I think that most coaches would benefit from being social and social

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media, which essentially means a writing something every day.

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And, you know, you become better at writing content when you show up daily.

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The number six is your learning habit.

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Are you constantly learning something?

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Are you constantly innovating?

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Are you buying programs?

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Are you implementing those programs?

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Are you not only learning?

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Are you actually implementing the learnings that you're doing?

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I think that's a really great habit to get into is instead of

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buying and consuming a bunch of information, can you buy something,

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consume it and then implement it.

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That's a habit in itself.

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If you're one of these people who buys programs all the time,

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but never implements any of them, then what's the point.

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There's just like literally money wasted.

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Um, I, again, got into the habit of making sure that I'm implementing a

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program from start to finish, or at least as much as I absolutely can.

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depending on where my business is at.

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And I really made it a habit to implement to not only consume cuz for a while

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there, particularly when I was at the beginning of my coaching journey,

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I would just buy stuff and it would just be on the shelf, like the amount

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of Pinterest courses that I bought.

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Oh my God, you would weep and I do think I implemented any of them.

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Absolutely not.

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I have no idea how to use Pinterest.

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So , that's, that's one of those examples that I use all the time,

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because it, it really is true.

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I just, I was not in the habit of implementing.

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I was in the habit of consuming and I want you to get out of

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that habit, if that is a, you.

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Okay.

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Number seven money habits.

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Are you looking at your money on a regular basis?

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I have a money date in my calendar every Friday, me and my money have

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a, a sexy, sexy lunch together.

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We look at what is outgoing, what is incoming?

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We look at, you know, I track it.

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I look at it.

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I don't avoid it.

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I am excited for my money date and I generally do love.

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Looking at my spreadsheets.

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I love looking at what, like what's been going on in my business.

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and that is again, a habit.

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So many of my clients come to me and they have no idea what's going on

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in their accounts, like zero clue.

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And I think that is the biggest freaking shame ever because as a coach, how

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can you expect to make more money if you're not looking at it actively?

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And if you are not interested in seeing your situation or if you're avoiding

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it, we want to get comfortable with looking at it and we want to get.

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Excited about having a date with it.

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So money is a habit.

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Like everything else, like again, a sales process is a habit looking at

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your money and putting in, in place strategies to make more is a habit

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like anything else, then number eight, your fun habits, like having fun

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and having a full life is a habit.

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Did you know.

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I didn't know that until I started doing therapy.

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when I realized all I was doing was working and I was calling

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it, quote, unquote, fun time.

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Don't get me wrong.

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I love my business.

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I am the first person to admit that I do get obsessive.

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I get, you know, overexcited.

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And one of the non-negotiables of essentially being my partner is.

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I will most likely be obsessive about business that has always been the case.

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Um, the thing that I think is, is more, um, fascinating for all of us to look at.

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Because if you're anything like me, then you're probably

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obsessive about your business too.

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And I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

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Particularly if you're like discovering a new toolbox or a new therapy, like

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my mind automatically goes, oh my God, I can help so many people with this.

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Oh my God.

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I have to find everything out about this.

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And, oh, I'm so excited to do this, this and this.

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Right.

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And ah, just that, like that surge of energy get like

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just gets me so excited now.

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Having fun in your life is a habit like you wanting to have

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fun activities is a habit.

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Like for me, when I first started going out with my partner, he was fascinated

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by the amount of traveling that I'd done.

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But.

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Traveling for me was a habit.

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Like I knew I had, I had dates in my calendar set aside for traveling and like,

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I have my passport with me almost all of the time, just in case an opportunity

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came about like that's a habit in itself.

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So when I say fun is a habit.

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You having activities in your calendar, you making time to do things like art

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classes to do things like pottery to do dance stuff to do game nights, right?

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All of those fun activities that I prioritize in my calendar, like dancing,

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like, you know, game night, like going to plays, doing all these things.

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They're in my calendar because.

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I've made it a habit to put them in my calendar.

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I will, again, when I have my money date, sit down and look at, okay,

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well, what is the week looking like, what are my priorities for the week?

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And I track the amount of fun that I have.

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like again, tracking and metrics, my two favorite things.

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so I literally look at what is the fun score for the week?

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Did I have a sufficient amount of time?

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To have fun.

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Did I not?

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And if that's the case, then you know, why am I not having fun?

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Why am I not prioritizing fun?

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What needs to change and what needs to, you know, shift.

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Fun is a habit like anything else.

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And if you're not prioritizing putting fun things on your schedule, then

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this is a sign from the universe.

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And for me to go and do something fun, right?

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If you are, if you are stuck and you are like, oh my God, my life

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is not inspiring and is boring, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

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And I'm so stressed out and I'm burnt out.

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Ah, but you're not having fun.

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Is it any wonder that you're feeling that way?

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We all, as particularly as coaches, we are usually creative beings and we

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need to get inspiration from somewhere.

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So it's your job to feel good.

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It's your job to have fun, cuz otherwise you're not embodying.

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You are inner coach and therefore, how can you expect your clients to have fun

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fulfilling lives if you're not, you know?

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So I will always prioritize the fun activities that need

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to, to happen in life because.

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But, well, what's, what's the point.

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Otherwise, if we're not having fun and if we're not enjoying the fruits of

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our labor, why, why are we doing the things that we're doing fun is a habit.

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get into the habit of having fun.

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And then the ninth thing on my list and the thing that came up

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as I was creating the outline for this episode was family, right?

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Family in itself.

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I don't really wanna make my family a habit, but if you are like me and

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you form a form, a big sort of con interconnected family, then having family

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time is also a habit in your schedule.

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As in making time to do different things.

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Is.

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Habit activity.

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And it's not necessarily, I don't really view my family as a habit, but I do think

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that some things on your schedule can be categorized as that, like me looking after

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my sister over half term periods, that's a habit that's that happens over and over

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and over again, every single quarter.

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So therefore it's something that I can track and therefore it's a habit.

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And I would look at you.

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What are the habits that you are in with your family?

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Do you have any successful habits?

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Do you have, you know, habits that will include your kids in your business?

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Do you have habits with your husband, with your partner, with

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your girlfriend or whatever?

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And if not, then what gives, can you include them more in

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your, in your coaching life?

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Or if you don't want to then how can you have more fun?

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Like, I think family is itself is like a whole other topic, but I do think.

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As coaches we sometimes don't necessarily appreciate, or don't think about the

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fact that we do lots of habitual things with our family and that we need to

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have a look at what is our relationship.

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So I think, you know, having a great relationship with your family and

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having routines and spending time with them is also an important aspect of.

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Your life.

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And it's a great thing for you to do.

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I know for a fact that like when I was single and I was making time

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for dating, like that was a habit.

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Right.

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And when I was not right, when I'm with my partner again, like date night

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that I would consider a family habit.

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If we don't have date night, then we don't have, you know, the

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intimacy that we need to have.

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And then we don't have the fun.

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And then, you know, I don't feel great.

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Right.

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And as a coach, again, my job is to feel good and is to have fun.

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Is to embody who I need to be and be in my integrity.

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So I would look at what are the family habits that you can install for me?

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The non-negotiable one is date.

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Is thing.

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Number one.

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And number two, like family is my number one value.

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I love my family.

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I love spending as much time with them as possible.

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So I'm always gonna prioritize that over everything else.

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Um, for us, a habit is going on holiday every year.

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Like that's a habit that we, we all stick to.

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And it's one that I love too.

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So I would look at what are those known negotiables for you and what

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are you prioritizing in your life?

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Cause ultimately you get to decide how you live, who you live.

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What, what is it that you're doing with yourself?

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And I think, you know, The number one thing that I get all my coaches to do is

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this is I make them create a rules list.

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What are the rules for your new life?

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So if you've been inspired by this episode, I would love to encourage

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you to write your new, like five to 10 rules of great habits that you're

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going to commit to from today onwards.

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And I would love for you to take a photo of the rules and

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send me a DM on Instagram.

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I'm at Ali K coaching.

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And as you share your rules, I'll share with you my rules.

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And that can be a little bonus that you get this week.

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So thank you so much for joining me.

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I hope you, uh, heard something new useful with these nine habits that I

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mentioned, and I hope that you take one for yourself and implement it.

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And of course you are always welcome to, to share your habits with me too.

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All right.

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To have an amazing day, I will speak to you next week